rules - and discuss in advance the consequences of breaking them.
Make your expectations clear. Don't make empty threats or let the
rule-breaker off the hook. Don't impose harsh or unexpected new punishments.
a curfew- And enforce it strictly. Be prepared to negotiate for special
kids check in at regular times. Give them a phone card, change or
even a pager, with clear rules for using it. (Remember that pagers
are not allowed in some schools).
parents whose home is to be used for a party. On party night don't
be afraid to stop in and say hello (and make sure that adult supervision
is in place).
it easy to leave a party where drugs are being used. Discuss in advance
how you or another designated adult will come to pick your child up
the moment he or she feels uncomfortable. Later, be prepared to talk
about what happened.
to your instincts. Don't be afraid to intervene if your gut reaction
tells you that something is wrong.